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Aoki, 2004-2017 - KRAD's Inaccurate Guide to Life
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Aoki, 2004-2017
This actually happened on Monday, but I've been so crazy busy, I haven't had time to write a proper post..............

So Monday, I had to get up absurdly early to drive my parents to the airport and then do the first day of physical therapy on my arthritic knees. After PT was done, I went back to sleep for a bit, and right when I woke up, the phone rang, and it was Terri. One generally doesn't hear from one's ex when it's good news, and sure enough, I was right: she was calling me in tears telling me that Aoki was dying and did I want to come to the vet to say goodbye before she was put to sleep? I said yes, of course, and Wrenn and I hied to the vet with dispatch.

Terri and I got Aoki on 31 August 2004, a couple of weeks after we lost Mittens to cancer. Bide-a-Wee was closing for renovations, but they had to place all their animals before they could do that, so we went down on Terri's lunch hour. Of the cats that were left, most were either cats that had to be the only cat in the place (and we still had Marcus) or pairs that had to stay together (which wasn't a great idea, as our apartment was just right for two cats, not ideal for three -- hilariously, years later, Wrenn, Dale, and I would populate that very same apartment with four cats and a big-ass dog, but we were young and foolish....).

And then there was Aoki. The sweetest little Tortoiseshell, she was only four months old, and she climbed all over Terri as soon as they put us together in the get-to-know-you room. I took her home on the subway, and she immediately started exploring the apartment and being all affectionate and sweet.

Marcus hadn't been handling Mittens's death well -- Mittens had always been there since Marcus was two months old, but without the big guy around, Marcus stopped eating. Aoki, though, was relentless in her cute-itude, and she basically got Marcus back to his old self by playing with him and frolicking with him and generally being a nuisance.

Aoki always used to sleep on my hip when I took a nap. She always would climb all over things and fall asleep on them. And she was always friendly and happy and cute and sweet.

When we first brought her home, she treated every meal like it was her last, wolfing it down as fast as she could, to the point where we had to feed her in the bathroom with the door closed so she wouldn't eat all of Marcus's food.

Mittens's death was rough on all three of us, and Aoki helped us all get back from that.

She was, for all intents and purposes, my first cat. My family had a cat named Tiger Lilly when I was a baby before my mother's cat allergies kicked in, but I don't really remember her, and Mittens and Marcus were both Terri's from before I met her.

Aoki was my sweet little girl.

Terri and I split up in April 2009, and she moved out eight months later. We both agreed that she would keep Aoki, simply because Terri would be living alone and Marcus needed to have Aoki around for when Terri was at work. As I said to Terri at the time, Marcus needed her more than I did.

For a while, Terri lived in the same building, so I got to see her every once in a while, but when she moved out of the neighborhood, I didn't get to see her hardly at all, until last year when Terri contracted breast cancer, and I transported her to and from the hospital a few times, and also took care of Aoki and her other two cats, Star and Raina, when she had a lung issue that hospitalized her for a week.

Aoki had intestinal blockage when she was a kitten before we ever got her, and they shortened her intestine surgically, which stunted her growth. (That was part of her cute factor -- she had the head of a cat but the body of a kitten, plus she had these huge ears....) As she got older, she developed kidney and bowel issues, and the medications for one cancelled out the other, which complicated Terri's life. Eventually, something was going to go, and sadly it was the kidneys, which failed Sunday night.

Terri, Wrenn, and I said goodbye to Aoki at our vet. She was a good cat, and I've been missing her horribly these past few years. I miss her even more now.

Goodbye, sweet girl.

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chris_walsh From: chris_walsh Date: March 22nd, 2017 02:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
Understood, and understandable. Sympathies. And thank you for sharing how Aoki entered your life.
From: (Anonymous) Date: March 22nd, 2017 03:18 pm (UTC) (Link)


So sorry to hear that. It is always hard when we have to make that decision for our furry family. Hugs.

Julie Harris
wookiemonster From: wookiemonster Date: March 22nd, 2017 03:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
My condolences. This was a good remembrance entry.
From: girasole Date: March 22nd, 2017 05:32 pm (UTC) (Link)

The family history of your cats

When I was pregnant with you, friends brought over two kittens, one named Tiger Lily, a grey and white tabby, and one named Heathcliff, a black cat with four white paws. The latter was the orginal scaredy cat, so we immediately renamed her Cliffie. Cliffie used to sleep snuggled up to my pregnant belly. Tiger Lily, much more circumspect, would only sleep at the foot of the bed.
After you were born, maybe a week after you came home, I found Cliffie asleep in your crib. I chastised her so severely that she never did that again.
Shortly thereafter, I developed chronic bronchitis, which we discovered was because I was terribly allergic to the cats. Bert, one of your godfathers, took Cliffie. Granma and Granpa took Tiger Lily, and she led a long and happy life with them.
kate2 From: kate2 Date: March 23rd, 2017 01:23 am (UTC) (Link)
Aw I am sorry to hear this..we (sky, tiger and myself) send you lots of hugs ands and thoughts..
xenaclone From: xenaclone Date: March 23rd, 2017 09:06 am (UTC) (Link)
It's hard to lose pets.

Please give my sympathies to Terri. I haven't heard from her for ages and I didn't know she'd been so ill. I've still got a giant flask with her name on it [as it were] for whenever we're in the same location at the same time.
burning_moon117 From: burning_moon117 Date: March 24th, 2017 03:42 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm sorry for your loss.
bodacioussylph From: bodacioussylph Date: March 25th, 2017 02:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm so sorry, Keith.
nahtmmm From: nahtmmm Date: March 29th, 2017 03:34 pm (UTC) (Link)
Aww, sorry for your loss :(
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